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Doreen McGettigan is a Good Samaritan in every sense of the word. She not only helped the elderly homeless woman, Sophie, she housed her, clothed her, fed her, and saw to her every need. It was not always easy, and McGetttigan tells the truth about her fear and sometimes disgust. Yet, she grew to love Sophie and mourns her loss.
McGettigan’s simple question, “What would you do?” challenges us to not only look at the homeless as our brothers and sisters, but to take action to relieve their sufferi Doreen McGettigan is a Good Samaritan in every sense of the word. She not only helped the elderly homeless woman, Sophie, she housed her, clothed her, fed her, and saw to her every need. It was not always easy, and McGetttigan tells the truth about her fear and sometimes disgust. Yet, she grew to love Sophie and mourns her loss.
McGettigan’s simple question, “What would you do?” challenges us to not only look at the homeless as our brothers and sisters, but to take action to relieve their suffering.
The Stranger in My Recliner is an important book. It opens our eyes to what homeless people must go through. It shows us a real person in a terrible situation. And, it shows us what two people with kind hearts can do for someone, make a difference in just one life, a precious life. God bless you, Doreen and John. Thank you for sharing your story and Sophie’s story. May this book help to make a change in our world.
An interesting story about a husband and wife who take in a homeless woman. 2 years of trying to help this woman get services and find a permanent home at 80 years of age. Mixed in are statistics about the homeless and most slip through the cracks and how hard it is to treat and help.
McGettigan’s book chronicles the time she and her husband, John, spent caring for Sophie, a local woman in her 80s who was homeless at the time that John literally bumped into her on the street. He recognized her from around town and offered her a place to sleep on his couch at home.
What started as a short-term offer for help turned into weeks, months and years of living under the same roof. Doreen shares the vicissitudes of caring for someone who has profound need who also had personal habits McGettigan’s book chronicles the time she and her husband, John, spent caring for Sophie, a local woman in her 80s who was homeless at the time that John literally bumped into her on the street. He recognized her from around town and offered her a place to sleep on his couch at home.
What started as a short-term offer for help turned into weeks, months and years of living under the same roof. Doreen shares the vicissitudes of caring for someone who has profound need who also had personal habits that were difficult to accept. The book also steps back from time to time to address the problem of homelessness at large and the difficulty of negotiating through various social services.
I spent some time myself in the last two years serving as a lay minister to women in my local congregation in Kansas. We had many women in our congregation who had few resources as they moved into their late adulthood. Like Sophie, many older women are out of the public eye and suffer from lack of adequate shelter, food, and health care. It’s a sobering topic, and McGettigan’s book helps humanize what is all too often a statistic for people–if they think about older, impoverished women at all.
An interesting story about a husband and wife who take in a homeless woman. 2 years of trying to help this woman get services and find a permanent home at 80 years of age. Mixed in are statistics about the homeless and most slip through the cracks and how hard it is to treat and help.
The Stranger in My Recliner is an important book. It opens our eyes to what homeless people must go through. It shows us a real person in a terrible situation. And, it shows us what two people with kind hearts can do for someone, make a difference in just one life, a precious life. God bless you, Doreen and John. Thank you for sharing your story and Sophie’s story. May this book help to make a change in our world.
Doreen McGettigan is a Good Samaritan in every sense of the word. She not only helped the elderly homeless woman, Sophie, she housed her, clothed her, fed her, and saw to her every need. It was not always easy, and McGetttigan tells the truth about her fear and sometimes disgust. Yet, she grew to love Sophie and mourns her loss.
McGettigan’s simple question, “What would you do?” challenges us to not only look at the homeless as our brothers and sisters, but to take action to relieve their sufferi Doreen McGettigan is a Good Samaritan in every sense of the word. She not only helped the elderly homeless woman, Sophie, she housed her, clothed her, fed her, and saw to her every need. It was not always easy, and McGetttigan tells the truth about her fear and sometimes disgust. Yet, she grew to love Sophie and mourns her loss.
McGettigan’s simple question, “What would you do?” challenges us to not only look at the homeless as our brothers and sisters, but to take action to relieve their suffering.
Doreen McGettigan’s second book is not for the faint of heart. Her journey with Sophie, a homeless woman whom she and her husband John welcome into their home, is emotional, riveting and introspective. It’s very personal, perhaps too personal at times. But Sophie’s Story, to do it justice, needed to be that personal.
Have you cared for a parent with terminal disease in the end stages of their life? How about a child with severe developmental challenges? Have you provided daily care for a mentally Doreen McGettigan’s second book is not for the faint of heart. Her journey with Sophie, a homeless woman whom she and her husband John welcome into their home, is emotional, riveting and introspective. It’s very personal, perhaps too personal at times. But Sophie’s Story, to do it justice, needed to be that personal.
Have you cared for a parent with terminal disease in the end stages of their life? How about a child with severe developmental challenges? Have you provided daily care for a mentally, emotionally or physically challenged person?
Imagine, if you can, in body and soul, a lonely 82 year old woman, a total stranger, abandoned and living on the streets of your local community. Imagine that person with all of those afflictions. If you so dare to imagine, you have barely a snippet of Sophie. Her story is far more complex.
A few friends attempted, best as they could, to help Sophie. John, whom Sophie helped twenty years earlier, stumbled upon her downtrodden self and immediately felt a duty of obligation to provide something more. And Doreen, being the “caretaker” that she is, rose to the occasion. It was their divine calling.
The reader can’t help but ask, “What would I do?” For anyone who has cared for a person, a loved one, a friend with debilitating circumstances, you know the challenges and strain. This book will give comfort, knowing that others have similar experiences, emotional reactions, and thoughts.
If you’ve not had these experiences, consider yourself lucky, and know that eventually you should. Should? Why should? Simply, as Doreen asserts, we as families should have a sense of decency, a sense of commitment and a sense of responsibility to our family and friends in need. Sophie had none of that from her own family. And the government programs, seriously flawed, let her down too.
Doreens’ captivating story telling makes “Stranger” an easy and satisfying, albeit disturbing read. At times, the flow seems disjointed, but it works in the context of Doreen’s, John’s and Sophie’s gut wrenching relationships with each other, with others, and with the world at large.
Yes, I am being elusive about those details. Why? Because I could never do them justice the way Doreen tells the story. Read it. You be the judge. And take Sophie’s Challenge when done.
The intricate narrative of how a homeless stranger came to be a roommate, how it affected their lives and how it set the author on her own journey of discovery, give the reader an intimate look at the face of aging, families and, of course, the worst case scenario. Fully researched yet personally poignant, “The Stranger in My Recliner” opens your heart to one woman’s descent into homelessness and the complicated spiral of services that failed.
In the end, it’s evident that the state of mental hea The intricate narrative of how a homeless stranger came to be a roommate, how it affected their lives and how it set the author on her own journey of discovery, give the reader an intimate look at the face of aging, families and, of course, the worst case scenario. Fully researched yet personally poignant, “The Stranger in My Recliner” opens your heart to one woman’s descent into homelessness and the complicated spiral of services that failed.
In the end, it’s evident that the state of mental health services sometimes leaves only two options for caregivers and their struggling family members: wash their hands of it or live with them tied. The red tape surrounding services for mental illness can also prevent those afflicted from getting effective help, even when the best intent is at heart. The author makes it evident that for every person on the street with no where to call home, there’s a story.
I commend her for taking responsibility. It was the ultimate act of kindness. Great story!
Doreen McGettigan’s book, The Stranger in My Recliner, is an aptly titled book chronicling her and her husband’s decision to take in an elderly homeless lady.
Doreen pulls no punches as she takes a hard look at how the situation affected her and her family. She takes a painful and honest look at the myriad of emotions that came with trying to help Sophie: everything from pity to frustration to joy. You can tell that Doreen cares. She never flinches when it comes to asking hard questions either. S Doreen McGettigan’s book, The Stranger in My Recliner, is an aptly titled book chronicling her and her husband’s decision to take in an elderly homeless lady.
Doreen pulls no punches as she takes a hard look at how the situation affected her and her family. She takes a painful and honest look at the myriad of emotions that came with trying to help Sophie: everything from pity to frustration to joy. You can tell that Doreen cares. She never flinches when it comes to asking hard questions either. She asks the reader what they would do if they were to come across Sophie. What can we do as a society? How can we do a better job when it comes to taking care of our homeless and our elderly?
I highly recommend this book for anyone who is interested in fixing a system that is broken. For anyone who wants to help the homeless or the elderly or both. This book does a good job of putting the reader into that situation and showing them how it feels to have that responsibility and to have to maneuver through a system that is busted at the same time. This book challenges us to do better as individuals and as a society. This book challenges us to be part of the solution: to make the world a better place for the homeless and the elderly.
In the interest of full disclosure I was sent a review copy of the book.
Homeless People Deserve Our Love and Care By Amazon Customer on January 26, 2016
Format: Paperback
The publisher/author sent me a copy for an honest review
A Stranger in My Recliner: My Review
It’s below freezing outside and you are wandering the streets because you have no place to go and no one that care about you or will take you in. The system of services cannot find you because you do not have an address so where are they going to send your checks? Wandering the streets you have one favorite hangout, McDonalds where you and some of your other friends stay until closing time when you have to find a place to sleep outside where you won’t get mugged or injured. But, people walk by you seeing you sitting on the sidewalk, covered with newspapers or a thread-born coat just stares at you and walk the other way. You eyes are clear; your face is alert yet many think you are not mentally stable. No one knows your story nor do they care to know it. What happens to so many of these people that are homeless and do not want to go to shelters, whose families just up and left them to fend for themselves and one special lady named Sophie who became the Stranger in John and Doreen’s recliner. This is a true story of compassion, understanding, love and hope for one 80-year-old woman. As you hear Doreen, our narrator telling the story you will cry, scream, laugh and wonder just what these agencies that are supposed to help are doing and why they don’t seem to quite get it. With all of her heart, with all of her resentment at times and fears, what happens with Sophie will warm your heart, fill your eyes with tears and bring a special smile to your face and love for both John and Doreen. As John was driving home one day and found Sophie sitting on the sidewalk outside and called Doreen asking to bring her home. What would you do if you were Doreen? How can you open your home and heart to a complete stranger? This is a story that everyone needs to read.
The voices heard are Sophie’s and Doreen’s as the emotions vary yet are the same. Each frustrated and angry over their situations and Doreen helpless at times not knowing how to make this stranger feel comfortable and safe. Doreen’s fears, upsets and emotional upheavals are apparent when she asks Sophie to join her and her family on trips that would lighten her burden and make her part of their lives. Her children and grandchildren are accepting to a point but Sophie’s fears and the remembrances of her own children that cast her aside cause a barrier to come up and she can’t seem to let it down. The author’s research is quite extensive into the homeless, the bureaucratic agencies and their lack of support of help.
John is supportive and there for her but basically it is all on Doreen. Even getting two precious dogs and asking Sophie to care for them while she is away put a strain on her during their vacation. Sophie’s anger seemed bottled up and when asked to provide medical documents or anything else the amount of time she took was insurmountable. When Doreen finally went through her ratty bag what she found was information to help her sort out some of her family and medical issues and taking her shopping and in her car other landmarks became apparent. Sophie is definitely ill and needs a doctor but does she have something terminal or are her outbursts and memory problems Dementia/Alzheimer’s? As the story progresses the author includes pictures of Sophie, memories that she had, a photo of where John found her and some pictures of Doreen’s grandchildren that she identified with and more. Added in we learn about her children, her marriages, the abuse she went through and other people in her life wondering what is reality and what if not.
Doreen sites many laws, statues and different places that she researched and visited to learn more about the rights of the homeless and mentally ill that readers need to read for themselves to understand the gravity of the situation and how far she went to learn more about the system and why is often fails so many. Do you realize that if someone is mentally ill and feels they are not they cannot be committed? She cared for Sophie and learning more about her family makes you wonder what kind of fiber they were made of. She also shared with Doreen about the life living in the woods, the people that beat her up and her trip to her primary doctor who missed something grave. Taking her to live in Fair Acres was one of the hardest decisions she and John had to make but much safer and better for Sophie as it was taking its toll on both of them. Added in we learn about the new cases the author was given and the deplorable conditions some patients lived in because of lack of care.
There are many resources that are listed and the volume of information is vast as we learn more about Sophie’s life, and Doreen contacting her son Billy and her two friends Lisa and Bob. Both Lisa and Bob filled in much of what she did not know along with the fact that Lisa allowed her to use her address to get her mail. Friendships are tested. A marriage was made stronger and a woman named Sophie was granted three years of life because two people could not stand to see her all alone. Understanding that she spoke like a little child at times and feared doctors for a reason Sophie’s voice is heard loud and clear as you wonder if she did not bury herself within a protective shell so she would not get hurt. This is a powerful book that needs to be placed in every library, every hospital library, nursing home and for caregivers to understand what needs to be done to help the homeless and those that cannot care for themselves. What they did in Utah to help the homeless by giving them housing and much more is commendable and should happen everywhere else. To Doreen thank you for giving me the honor or reviewing this title and for making Sophie a part of my life too. The pictures helped me get to know her better and the story is one that needs to be told over and over again. I know that at times you think that you did the wrong thing but Doreen you and John gave an older woman her life back in some way for three years. The blue recliner that she loved and thought of as her safety net I hope that you still have as a remembrance.
Let’s dedicate this to Sophie and all those homeless people that deserve our love, kindness, help and understanding. The next time you see someone sitting alone on the street do not walk by them with distain remember: IT COULD BE YOU!
Homeless People Deserve Our Love and Care By Amazon Customer on January 26, 2016
Format: Paperback
The publisher/author sent me a copy for an honest review
A Stranger in My Recliner: My Review
It’s below freezing outside and you are wandering the streets because you have no place to go and no one that care about you or will take you in. The system of services cannot find you because you do not have an address so where are they going to send your checks? Wandering the streets you have one favorite hangout, McDonalds where you and some of your other friends stay until closing time when you have to find a place to sleep outside where you won’t get mugged or injured. But, people walk by you seeing you sitting on the sidewalk, covered with newspapers or a thread-born coat just stares at you and walk the other way. You eyes are clear; your face is alert yet many think you are not mentally stable. No one knows your story nor do they care to know it. What happens to so many of these people that are homeless and do not want to go to shelters, whose families just up and left them to fend for themselves and one special lady named Sophie who became the Stranger in John and Doreen’s recliner. This is a true story of compassion, understanding, love and hope for one 80-year-old woman. As you hear Doreen, our narrator telling the story you will cry, scream, laugh and wonder just what these agencies that are supposed to help are doing and why they don’t seem to quite get it. With all of her heart, with all of her resentment at times and fears, what happens with Sophie will warm your heart, fill your eyes with tears and bring a special smile to your face and love for both John and Doreen. As John was driving home one day and found Sophie sitting on the sidewalk outside and called Doreen asking to bring her home. What would you do if you were Doreen? How can you open your home and heart to a complete stranger? This is a story that everyone needs to read.
The voices heard are Sophie’s and Doreen’s as the emotions vary yet are the same. Each frustrated and angry over their situations and Doreen helpless at times not knowing how to make this stranger feel comfortable and safe. Doreen’s fears, upsets and emotional upheavals are apparent when she asks Sophie to join her and her family on trips that would lighten her burden and make her part of their lives. Her children and grandchildren are accepting to a point but Sophie’s fears and the remembrances of her own children that cast her aside cause a barrier to come up and she can’t seem to let it down. The author’s research is quite extensive into the homeless, the bureaucratic agencies and their lack of support of help.
John is supportive and there for her but basically it is all on Doreen. Even getting two precious dogs and asking Sophie to care for them while she is away put a strain on her during their vacation. Sophie’s anger seemed bottled up and when asked to provide medical documents or anything else the amount of time she took was insurmountable. When Doreen finally went through her ratty bag what she found was information to help her sort out some of her family and medical issues and taking her shopping and in her car other landmarks became apparent. Sophie is definitely ill and needs a doctor but does she have something terminal or are her outbursts and memory problems Dementia/Alzheimer’s? As the story progresses the author includes pictures of Sophie, memories that she had, a photo of where John found her and some pictures of Doreen’s grandchildren that she identified with and more. Added in we learn about her children, her marriages, the abuse she went through and other people in her life wondering what is reality and what if not.
Doreen sites many laws, statues and different places that she researched and visited to learn more about the rights of the homeless and mentally ill that readers need to read for themselves to understand the gravity of the situation and how far she went to learn more about the system and why is often fails so many. Do you realize that if someone is mentally ill and feels they are not they cannot be committed? She cared for Sophie and learning more about her family makes you wonder what kind of fiber they were made of. She also shared with Doreen about the life living in the woods, the people that beat her up and her trip to her primary doctor who missed something grave. Taking her to live in Fair Acres was one of the hardest decisions she and John had to make but much safer and better for Sophie as it was taking its toll on both of them. Added in we learn about the new cases the author was given and the deplorable conditions some patients lived in because of lack of care.
There are many resources that are listed and the volume of information is vast as we learn more about Sophie’s life, and Doreen contacting her son Billy and her two friends Lisa and Bob. Both Lisa and Bob filled in much of what she did not know along with the fact that Lisa allowed her to use her address to get her mail. Friendships are tested. A marriage was made stronger and a woman named Sophie was granted three years of life because two people could not stand to see her all alone. Understanding that she spoke like a little child at times and feared doctors for a reason Sophie’s voice is heard loud and clear as you wonder if she did not bury herself within a protective shell so she would not get hurt. This is a powerful book that needs to be placed in every library, every hospital library, nursing home and for caregivers to understand what needs to be done to help the homeless and those that cannot care for themselves. What they did in Utah to help the homeless by giving them housing and much more is commendable and should happen everywhere else. To Doreen thank you for giving me the honor or reviewing this title and for making Sophie a part of my life too. The pictures helped me get to know her better and the story is one that needs to be told over and over again. I know that at times you think that you did the wrong thing but Doreen you and John gave an older woman her life back in some way for three years. The blue recliner that she loved and thought of as her safety net I hope that you still have as a remembrance.
Let’s dedicate this to Sophie and all those homeless people that deserve our love, kindness, help and understanding. The next time you see someone sitting alone on the street do not walk by them with distain remember: IT COULD BE YOU!
I loved this book
ByRuth Curranon January 31, 2016
The Stranger in My Recliner is an honest, compelling story of how life changed the day that Doreen Mcgettigan’s husband brought a homeless woman home with him. Doreen masterfully weaves in the facts about how we, as society view our homeless, our mentally ill, and our elderly. She describes her struggles to not only find services for Sophie – the woman the Mcgettigans wrapped into their lives – but to also find out about who this woman really was. I loved this book. Doreen’s beautiful, gentle voice comes through loudly and clearly on every page and I felt like she was talking to me, telling me the story of Sophie and motivating me to examine my own actions and attitudes.
I loved “The Stranger in My Recliner” and found it difficult …
ByTerrion February 25, 2016
I loved “The Stranger in My Recliner” and found it difficult to put down. I kept on coming back to it to find out what would happen next. I don’t know if I could do what Doreen and John did, take in a stranger and love her like one of their own. I appreciated Doreen’s honesty in her feelings and the details of what her day could bring. And even though it was difficult to read, her insights into our history and current programs for our elderly, homeless, and mentally ill and the inadequacies of the programs are eye-opening and thought provoking. This a beautiful love story.
I loved “The Stranger in My Recliner” and found it difficult …
ByTerrion February 25, 2016
I loved “The Stranger in My Recliner” and found it difficult to put down. I kept on coming back to it to find out what would happen next. I don’t know if I could do what Doreen and John did, take in a stranger and love her like one of their own. I appreciated Doreen’s honesty in her feelings and the details of what her day could bring. And even though it was difficult to read, her insights into our history and current programs for our elderly, homeless, and mentally ill and the inadequacies of the programs are eye-opening and thought provoking. This a beautiful love story.
When she states that she doesn’t want to attend church because “God hates her” gave me great pause.
ByAmazon Customeron March 2, 2016
I laughed and cried reading “The Stranger On My Recliner”. Most everyone in South Eastern Delaware County knew “Sophie”. Ms. Mcgettigan has her down perfectly. I don’t want to say anything negative about Sophie because I think her life was one of heart aches after heart aches to finally not even having a bed to rest her weary body. I think it highlights, Sister Mary Scullion’s quote, “None of us are home until all of us are home”. The glimpses into Sophie’s reality are startling; when she states that she doesn’t want to attend church because “God hates her” gave me great pause.
ByB. A. Chileson April 19, 2016
The Stranger in My Recliner is one of those books that sticks with you for many reasons. Author Doreen M. McGettigan has a story to tell and it is one of compassion, courage, discomfort, uneasiness and a myriad of other emotions that all pop up while the book is read. To say that this is an easy memoir to read might not be fully true but to say that this is a book that needs to be read is spot on.
Doreen and her husband John find themselves in the unusual position of being caregivers for Sophie, an 80 year old homeless woman whom John has befriended. As the author unfolds the details of how Sophie happened to come to be the main resident in the blue recliner in their living room she honestly relates her frustration at times with both the situation and Sophie herself.
Homelessness is rampant in the US and it is no mystery that there are no easy solutions. Doreen McGettigan shares some shocking statistics in her memoir including the fact that the estimated number of homeless people in America is somewhere between 2.5 and 3.5 million. That is an astronomical number in my opinion and quite possibly that number errs on the side of being low.
The problems that arose with the care of Sophie were numerous. The very fact that individuals need an address to receive any benefits played against Sophie being able to get much assistance at all even when she did have an address with Doreen and John. The address meant that she was no longer homeless and could not receive some of the much needed aid that was available. So what is the answer?
The memoir shares so many of the problems that exist with our mental health system as well as with those who just need assistance. Accessing the system is impossible for many and as a result they end up in dire straits.
This was a hard book to read because there is such a big gap when it comes to services for those who need them. Doreen worked diligently to help this woman —not many people would take someone into their own home for an extended period of time and try to work through all of the issues that came up as a result. But John and Doreen did and in their doing so they made Sophie real to the rest of us who are reading her story.
One quote that I especially loved was as follows: “John often says we met Jesus and his name was Sophie.”. I have always believed that people are placed in our paths for some reason or another and I truly believe that Sophie was put in the lives of the McGettigans for a reason. Doreen was able to write her story and get some much needed information shared and because of her compassion lives were changed and will continue to be changed.
This book served as a challenge to me to look beyond and perhaps to see more closely those invisible persons who live right out in plain view. If the McGettigans could make such a sacrifice and such a difference in the life of Sophie what could I do?
Riveting read
ByE. Graceon July 13, 2016
I was unable to put down this true account of a couple who took a homeless woman into their home for over 2 years. It was an eye-opener in many ways. However, some parts of the book got a bit pedantic, for example a long section on the history of mental hospitals could have been much more compact. In addition, the writer was at times unnecessarily repetitive which made the story a bit disjointed. I was bothered by the unanswered questions that were left hanging and the abrupt ending left me wondering if she left out a chapter. Still it was a remarkable story that I enjoyed.
Highly recommended. A good read. There are good people in the world.
ByMarguerit E. Ferraon July 19, 2016
The Stranger in My Recliner is quite a worthwhile read. It made me laugh. It made me cry. Doreen McGettigan tells her story in such an honest and entertaining voice that I read the book through without stopping. I’d bought the book on Kindle as soon as it came out, but then I ordered a lot of other books and somehow I forgot it was on my Kindle. I looked through my books yesterday, found it, and decided to read a bit of it. I couldn’t put it down. Yes, it’s sad. It’s extremely sad that there are so many people who are homeless and my heart sank when I read about it. However, knowing that there are people like Doreen and her husband in the world made me feel better about the world. I’m glad that this book has been written. I recommend it highly. Thank you, Doreen McGettigan, for writing it.
Good read
ByHberryon July 27, 2016
Good book. True life story with wonderful messages. So glad I read it. Hoping there is a sequel to it.
A Book Everyone Should Read! By Bookaholic Banter on January 26, 2016
Format: Paperback
Doreen provides an honest account of what it is like to allow a stranger into your home, to put a stranger’s needs before your own, and sacrificing your time and well being. I really enjoyed reading this story. The author knows how to write to keep you engaged. It was never dull or boring. It was very interesting. There were moments where I laughed out loud,. at times I cried. It was a sad but lovely story. It really got me thinking.
This book will make you think before judging a homeless person again. Sophie could be anyone of us at some point. There are so many reasons that people become homeless. This book will change the way you look at someone who is homeless.
At the end of this book the author encourages us to get more involved. There are many ways that we can do this and help make a difference and hopefully end the homelessness. There are suggestions provided and also a hashtag to use on social media. Help spread the word. This book is one that can effect us all greatly just by picking it up and reading it. This is a book that everyone should read. It is a topic that is not discussed enough and innocently ignored at times. It is an important piece of literature in our day and age.
Never Give Up By Beth Firce on January 26, 2016
Format: Paperback
I’d been taught to treat people the way the God said we should but I’d never known anyone who took those words as literally as Doreen and John. An elderly stranger, mentally unstable, sometimes incontinent, sometimes mean spirited and at times destructive takes up residence in their recliner. Yet, Doreen made her feel welcome in her own home. It started out of her love and loyalty to her husband, John, who knew Sophie first. I saw, in this book, more than simply a kind deed done for an old lady. I saw what selfless people can do to make the life of one person better. It was difficult for Doreen, as she was the main caregiver for Sophie, but she never gave up. The mental health system and elderly assistance makes it impossible to find the resources desperately needed for so many homeless on the streets. I believe that Doreen opened the eyes of the government agencies that she dealt with. The woman is a bulldog when she is on a mission! Sophie’s story could be anyone’s story if changes aren’t made to accommodate those living from one paycheck to the next, or unable to work due to health or age. The Stranger In My Recliner is an excellent example of kindness, selflessness, perseverance, loyalty, and just doing the right thing.
Homeless People Deserve Our Love and Care By Amazon Customer on January 26, 2016
By Sharon Nobilio on January 26, 2016
Format: Paperback
5.0 out of 5 starsA beautiful memoir.
The publisher/author sent me a copy for an honest review
A Stranger in My Recliner: My Review
It’s below freezing outside and you are wandering the streets because you have no place to go and no one that care about you or will take you in. The system of services cannot find you because you do not have an address so where are they going to send your checks? Wandering the streets you have one favorite hangout, McDonalds where you and some of your other friends stay until closing time when you have to find a place to sleep outside where you won’t get mugged or injured. But, people walk by you seeing you sitting on the sidewalk, covered with newspapers or a thread-born coat just stares at you and walk the other way. You eyes are clear; your face is alert yet many think you are not mentally stable. No one knows your story nor do they care to know it. What happens to so many of these people that are homeless and do not want to go to shelters, whose families just up and left them to fend for themselves and one special lady named Sophie who became the Stranger in John and Doreen’s recliner. This is a true story of compassion, understanding, love and hope for one 80-year-old woman. As you hear Doreen, our narrator telling the story you will cry, scream, laugh and wonder just what these agencies that are supposed to help are doing and why they don’t seem to quite get it. With all of her heart, with all of her resentment at times and fears, what happens with Sophie will warm your heart, fill your eyes with tears and bring a special smile to your face and love for both John and Doreen. As John was driving home one day and found Sophie sitting on the sidewalk outside and called Doreen asking to bring her home. What would you do if you were Doreen? How can you open your home and heart to a complete stranger? This is a story that everyone needs to read.
The voices heard are Sophie’s and Doreen’s as the emotions vary yet are the same. Each frustrated and angry over their situations and Doreen helpless at times not knowing how to make this stranger feel comfortable and safe. Doreen’s fears, upsets and emotional upheavals are apparent when she asks Sophie to join her and her family on trips that would lighten her burden and make her part of their lives. Her children and grandchildren are accepting to a point but Sophie’s fears and the remembrances of her own children that cast her aside cause a barrier to come up and she can’t seem to let it down. The author’s research is quite extensive into the homeless, the bureaucratic agencies and their lack of support of help.
John is supportive and there for her but basically it is all on Doreen. Even getting two precious dogs and asking Sophie to care for them while she is away put a strain on her during their vacation. Sophie’s anger seemed bottled up and when asked to provide medical documents or anything else the amount of time she took was insurmountable. When Doreen finally went through her ratty bag what she found was information to help her sort out some of her family and medical issues and taking her shopping and in her car other landmarks became apparent. Sophie is definitely ill and needs a doctor but does she have something terminal or are her outbursts and memory problems Dementia/Alzheimer’s? As the story progresses the author includes pictures of Sophie, memories that she had, a photo of where John found her and some pictures of Doreen’s grandchildren that she identified with and more. Added in we learn about her children, her marriages, the abuse she went through and other people in her life wondering what is reality and what if not.
Doreen sites many laws, statues and different places that she researched and visited to learn more about the rights of the homeless and mentally ill that readers need to read for themselves to understand the gravity of the situation and how far she went to learn more about the system and why is often fails so many. Do you realize that if someone is mentally ill and feels they are not they cannot be committed? She cared for Sophie and learning more about her family makes you wonder what kind of fiber they were made of. She also shared with Doreen about the life living in the woods, the people that beat her up and her trip to her primary doctor who missed something grave. Taking her to live in Fair Acres was one of the hardest decisions she and John had to make but much safer and better for Sophie as it was taking its toll on both of them. Added in we learn about the new cases the author was given and the deplorable conditions some patients lived in because of lack of care.
There are many resources that are listed and the volume of information is vast as we learn more about Sophie’s life, and Doreen contacting her son Billy and her two friends Lisa and Bob. Both Lisa and Bob filled in much of what she did not know along with the fact that Lisa allowed her to use her address to get her mail. Friendships are tested. A marriage was made stronger and a woman named Sophie was granted three years of life because two people could not stand to see her all alone. Understanding that she spoke like a little child at times and feared doctors for a reason Sophie’s voice is heard loud and clear as you wonder if she did not bury herself within a protective shell so she would not get hurt. This is a powerful book that needs to be placed in every library, every hospital library, nursing home and for caregivers to understand what needs to be done to help the homeless and those that cannot care for themselves. What they did in Utah to help the homeless by giving them housing and much more is commendable and should happen everywhere else. To Doreen thank you for giving me the honor or reviewing this title and for making Sophie a part of my life too. The pictures helped me get to know her better and the story is one that needs to be told over and over again. I know that at times you think that you did the wrong thing but Doreen you and John gave an older woman her life back in some way for three years. The blue recliner that she loved and thought of as her safety net I hope that you still have as a remembrance.
Let’s dedicate this to Sophie and all those homeless people that deserve our love, kindness, help and understanding. The next time you see someone sitting alone on the street do not walk by them with distain remember: IT COULD BE YOU!
Let’s give this book FIVE GOLDEN BLUE RECLINERS IN MEMORY OF SOPHIE
Format: Paperback
“The right thing to do is never the easiest,” writes Doreen M. Mcgettigan.
“I wanted to look past it, to keep walking, or to throw money and canned goods at it, but … it was right under my roof… wearing my pajamas.”
When her good-hearted husband rescues a destitute old lady one cold winter night, little did Doreen know that this pathetic creature would remain in their home long enough to seem like one of their “crazy relatives.”
Soon the dichotomy between the two women—one a trained caregiver with an overly heightened olfactory sense and a compulsion for cleanliness and order, the other a “germ-ridden, smelly, and very lazy elderly woman”—is surprisingly humorous, often frustrating, but oh, so very human.
Even more compelling than Ms. Mcgettigan’s skillful reporting on our system’s complacency in recognizing, much less treating, mental illness, The Stranger in my Recliner is the heartfelt and tragic story of Sophie—and the Good Samaritan couple, Doreen and John, who open their home, and their hearts, to this frail and confused old soul.
Bravo, Doreen Mcgettigan. As an advocate for the lost and broken victims of our society, you walk the talk.
Terri reviewed Bristol boyz Stomp
Gripping and emotional, I could not put it down. June 22, 2015
I could not put this book down. My heart hurts for Doreen and her family. Doreen takes her reader into the hospital, the court room, the murder site, it was gripping and emotional, and a story that needed to be told and should be read. |
Debbi DiFrancesco reviewed Bristol boyz Stomp
to many Victims and families are on these pages. all over USA June 4, 2015
I liked Doreen did not hold back. On D.A.’s or Judges,or her grief. I’m sad 4 her family. Thank You |
I received a copy of this e-book in exchange of my honest review.
Bristol Boyz Stomp – The Night that Divided a Town. Is the Author’s personal account of a violent crime that touched her family. More than that, its the story of Doreen’s life and the effect that the brutal and vicious attack that ended in the Death of her Brother at the hands of a local gang. Mrs. McGettigan gives you an inside look at what a crime like this does to the victim’s family not just in the moments after the crime but for years to come.
Though the basic story of this book is about the murder of her brother it is really a book about a family. She gives you the inside look at her and her families personal struggle to understand why this crime happened and their quest to see justice done to all those involved in her brothers death. This book doesn’t read like a professionally written true crime expose because it isn’t a professionally written expose, it is not impartial and it doesn’t try to look through the eyes of the perpetrators or their families. It is literally a very personal look behind the curtain of what a tragic crime does to the victim’s family. We sit with them in the hospital; see them find out who took their brothers life. Then we see them seek justice by keeping awareness of the victim and his family in the face of the police, and prosecutors, as well as the community at large. We struggle with them through the trial and sentencing. We hurt with them when justice is not what they feel is just or even adequate. While this is not a book that you put down and feel happy and satisfied from reading, it is a book that makes you think about things. Things that we as a society shy away from thinking about but need to face before they can be fixed. Things like how violence is becoming too common in our communities. Or how warped our justice system has become where offenders spend less time in jail for murder than the do for writing bad checks. How the victim’s rights seem to be taking a backseat to criminal’s rights. However, through it all we see how the healing process works even in a broken system. How people shattered by such a life-altering event may never forget but do learn and work hard at moving on. While not a conventional book on that process either I found it a refreshingly honest account of the struggle to make sense and put the pieces of life back together when every thing you know and do and are is overshadowed by a tragic life changing event. I give Bristol Boyz Stomp four stars and wish Doreen and her entire family a continuation of the healing and peace of God they need and deserve.POIGNANT AND HEARTFELT Author, Sharon Noblio
BRISTOL bOYZ STOMP takes an intimate look at a family who must endure the trauma of a loved one’s murder to face the nightmare of an imperfect legal system. By recounting the emotional balance between grieving the death of her brother, David, and needing to remain strong – not only for her children but to seek justice for David’s killers – Doreen Mcgettigan shows with remarkable honesty one woman’s arduous path toward healing. I recommend this memoir to everyone who has suffered a loss, and anyone who wants to remember what it means to be human.Oliverio Palanco [Musician; Artist] 4/14/12
I read your book and i loved it. It was pretty sad, and I’m sorry you and your family had to go through that. I liked the way you described Doylestown it was right on the money. Not all Bristol boys are like that but you probably already know that. If me and my friends would have came across that situation we would have helped your brother. I’m a Bristol boy and always will be, take care of yourself.
Posted February 24, 2012 on BarnesandNoble.com
AMAZING BOOK!!!!
AMAZING BOOK!!!! I read this book right after my son was killed by a hit and run driver in December. I felt Doreen’s pain and grief, as I am feeling it at the same time. Doreen’s love for her brother is so evident and comes across on every page. I felt as if she wrote it from the heart and the head. She poured her emotions out on one page, and on the next, described the legal process that she and her family was made to endure. She made me feel as if I knew David and what he was like. I could not put the book down; as I felt I was walking the journey right there with her.
Lisa Malave- February 16, 2012 Just want to say that you are such a very Strong woman and I applaud you for that. You and your Family have endured so much but you still kept going. I didn’t know what your Book was about but once I started to read it, it all came back to me. God Bless you and the Family and the Precious Little Boy Michael. Lisa February 6, 2012- From AmazonIn the small town of Bristol, Pennsylvannia, where everyone knows everyone and all is seen and heard, a henious murder cannot go unpunished – or can it? When David Albert and two of his bandmates are attacked at random one night, David is beaten, suffering severe brain damage, and left for dead in the middle of a driveway. David’s family spent seventy two hours in the intensive care unit watching him slip away and trying to figure out exactly what happened that night. Struggling through politics and protocol, David’s family attempts to fight for justice for the soft-spoken gentle giant with a great musical talent. When two men are finally charged with conspiracy and third-degree murder, the family is unsatisfied, continuing to believe there is more to the story. As years pass without more convictions and politics continuing to work against them, David’s family remains heartbroken, still struggling but devoted to finding justice. Join David’s sister Doreen McGettigan in Bristol boyz Stomp as she takes you on a journey, navigating throught the justice system, learning to deal with the media and facing the grieving process. A painfully gripping honest detail that will leave you wanting to hug everyone you love and forever….looking in the rearview mirror.Doreen McGettingan has written for several Philadelphia area newspapers. Since the brutal murder of her brother, she is committed to being an outspoken advocate for victims of all crimes and their families. She is a member of the Suburban Philadelphia Press Club and The Delaware County Chapter of BNI. She resides in Delaware County, Pennsylvannia, with her husband, John. To learn more visit her website. This story will touch you in ways I find hard to explain. I don’t know anyone who has ever been murdered, let alone a close family member. Doreen struggles for a long time with her grief. I could not imagine what it must have been like for their family to sit in that courtroom and have a prosecutor and a judge not give you closure. Only two men were arrested and they got light sentences, the longest being 5 years, when that charge should have been an automatic 25 years! There were so many witnesses and still the prosecutor did nothing and the judge showed mercy on two of the killers. The others were identified by many witnesses but were never arrested. I don’t know what kind of town this is, but in my book, somebody must have either took a bribe or were threatened by this gang of men called the Bristol boyz Stomp. This story is a disgrace to everything we hold dear in our country and it should be a disgrace to every cop, judge and prosecutor. Why would no one stand up for David? I am not talking about his family and friends or the witnesses, I am talking about the justice system. To this day, Doreen still has not found closure and this murder took place in 1999! Check out Doreen’s blog to read more about her and her journey. And yes, she is one of us, a blogger who needs us in her quest for justice. Just by stopping by and leaving a comment from time to time to cheer her up or to give her the strength to keep fighting, whatever you can offer will be a blessing. This story will horrify you because if it can happen once, it can happen twice and maybe someday it will be one of my family members who is beaten to death with a hammer to the head and left to die in the middle of the road. Because, you see, this murder was in fact, a road rage murder. David’s only crime was that he was following the speed limit and the men behind him thought he was going too slow and when they all stopped at a red light, they yanked him out of his car and brutally beat him to death. For God’s sake, he did nothing wrong except follow the law, and in the end, the law let David down. Tina Ciotti: