Its all about ‘I’

Welcome to today’s edition of the A-to –Z Challenge, The letter ‘I’

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The ‘I’ Culture

I am proud to say most of my life I have had an open mind. I also weathered most change with the attitude that it might take getting used to but would turn out for the better.

Over the last twenty- years, change in our culture has come so fast and so frequent, we barely have a chance to swallow.  One of those changes and the one that bothers, no actually frightens me the most is the ‘I’ culture we have created.

It seems lately if someone is ‘different’ in any way we as a collective, cater to the one that happens to be ‘different’.

One example is allergies. All of a sudden if a child has a peanut allergy, just one child, peanuts in any form are being banned from entire buildings. Nine hundred children are forbidden to have peanut butter and jelly, for lunch, so one child who is different can feel ‘special’.

allergy signsI understand the danger of allergies all to well. I have experienced anaphylaxis too many times. I learned to protect myself, to be cautious. I take allergy medication before I go to a restaurant, just in case and I always have medication with me in case of emergency. The allergies are mine and my body is my responsibility.

To this day, I get so embarrassed to say, “Can you please cook my food separately.”  Next week I have a Press Club luncheon and it is being held at a Red Lobster.  Red Lobster is like a death trap for me but I really want to go. Someone actually said I should call and ask to have the meeting moved to another location. I would be mortified.  Instead, I will call Red Lobster ahead of time and ask them to discreetly, cook my food separately.

I believe we are doing these children a huge disservice. They are growing up without a clue of how to take care of themselves. Because their parents were too lazy to teach them how they cannot help but expect everyone else to look after and provide for their well -being.

I believe this culture of ‘I’ is creating an epidemic of depression in young adults. They arrive at college and expect to have help with homework, someone to do their laundry, their bills paid and all the peanuts to be banned from the entire campus. When that doesn’t happen and life becomes work they cannot deal with the ‘stress.’

Our time-out generation has never experienced pain, discomfort or want and we wonder why they have no empathy.

6 Responses to “Its all about ‘I’”

  • An open mind is essential!

  • Lucy:

    I think you hit it the main point, the parents are doing a huge disservice to their children. When they enter into the adult world they become frustrated and don’t understand why they can’t get their way but they do try. It is happening in offices all over the place. My husband owns a small office and he says, “These young ones right out of college are not worth hiring,they piss and moan about the littlest thing,they have been so spoiled that it is getting to the point I just want to toss out those resumes.” Lucy from Lucy’s Reality

  • No, it’s not fair.
    We have a family friend whose child has severe nut allergies. He had to be rushed to the hospital more than once. I think once he’ll be old enough, he’ll be fine, but right now they can’t go anywhere without an epi pen to shoot into his leg, should he have an allergic reaction, and immediately after they rush him to the ER. It’s terrible seeing it happen.
    The parents watch him closely, but I don’t think they would ever go as far as trying to ban foods. It is one of those allergies that can kill a person on the spot. Horrible.
    Silvia @ Silvia Writes

  • Jai:

    I agree too. It is about educating your child to be aware of his/her own needs and to voice if s/he enters into a danger zone as the above stated child did.

    I’m allergic to walnuts, pecans and penicillin. Should they become a banned substance? I think not.

  • I totally agree about the allergies. I know a parent who got peanut butter sandwiches banned at a pre-school. This guy is a great person overall, but I never thought that was the right thing to do. My son had a friend when he was really young about 4 and this kid was the same age. I forgot this friend had peanut allergies so I offered to make him a peanut butter sandwich for lunch. He yells I can’t eat peanut butter. I’m allergic to it, and it will kill me. I felt horrible because I hadn’t meant to harm him and I didn’t want him to think so. I told him thank you for reminding me. I think all kids should be able to do that. To expect the rest of us to remember this stuff is only going to end badly.

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