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Monday Morning Rant…What is the difference between Catholicism and Dominoes?

Monday Morning Rant…

What is the difference between Catholicism and Dominoes? Last week was a rough one. Every planet must have been retrograde and a bunch of people in my life must have been on a steady diet of mean pills. Personally I always try to say what I mean without ever saying it mean and if I see or hear someone being mistreated I’m most often the first one to come to the rescue of the victim. What I saw and heard this week was people I’ve always respected doing nothing to correct or change the bad behavior of people that were treating others unkindly, even bullying.

 

I left the Catholic Church as a young adult. The controversy and horrors became too much for me to take. It wasn’t just the horrors that turned me away but the fact that crimes were being covered up and the guilty were being sheltered. Victims were being exposed and shamed. None of that spoke to me in a Christian voice so I didn’t quietly leave, I ran as fast and loudly as I could and took my kids with me.

 

Twelve-years ago I had a profound experience that left me questioning why I ever allowed a bunch of bullies to run me off. After meeting with a Monsignor I was invited back into the church with open arms and encouraged to become active, to be the church I wanted. I was determined to take my religion back and was devoted to working for the changes that we had no choice but to make.

 

Change is almost always easily welcomed and accepted by the masses. It’s those that have held ‘power’ the longest that fear any type of change and that fear prevents them from doing what is right and just. That fear prevents them from putting the horrors of the past behind us and prevents us from moving forward in a positive and welcoming way.

 

Last year our church received a new pastor. He didn’t participate in the celebration we had to welcome him.  Immediately the rumors swirled. Is he just shy? Aloof? Unhappy to be here? Is he here to close us? Is he just plain rude?

 

I still have no idea what the answer is to those questions. I do know he rarely smiles.

Our Parish has a deep well of talented, inspirational and kind volunteers that work tirelessly to evangelize and grow our Congregation. They also work endlessly to communicate to our community that we are a welcoming, loving religion and all are welcome here.

 

Last week a few of us volunteers needed to hold a last- minute meeting on church business. It was election-day so the room we usually meet in was being used as a polling place. We asked the parish secretary if we could use the church or another room in the large rectory. She said no. She didn’t just say no.  She was mean about the denial. I like the secretary and am grateful for her many years of service. It makes me sad to think she is so unhappy or is possibly walking through something so difficult that she can’t share. That caring doesn’t excuse bad behavior.

 

We’ve overlooked her crassness for years because we are so grateful. However when I start hearing from would be new members of our parish that she is not welcoming or helpful, when she is unkind to those working on church business, when she (and other employees of our Parish) continually harass a Christian community organization renting space from us and when a group of volunteers can’t use a space in their church to conduct church business, I cannot stay silent.

 

Because our Pastor is unapproachable and our Parish secretary works as his gatekeeper we needed to attend an early morning Mass in an attempt to corner him. It was apparent he didn’t want to be cornered as he kept his back to us the whole time we spoke.  Every few minutes he took a step forward.

 

 

We asked if everything was okay with our secretary and her family. We told him we were concerned about her. He told us he was sorry if it sounded mean but she follows his orders and if we wanted to have a meeting we had to pre-schedule it with the her because those are the rules.

I asked him if we could do a second collection for that Christian community organization that rents space in our property and he said no. He said the Archdiocese does not allow us to take collections for organizations that aren’t ‘ours.’ He then ran off…

 

 

 

I felt like a scolded 5th grade Catholic School student again. My feelings were hurt and those hurt feelings quickly turned to anger. I and the two women with me were stunned and we felt crushed.

 

Our Pastor and secretary seem to have forgotten the fact that they work for us and our entire church family. They are paid employees. We are volunteers that work tirelessly for our church family and we have always treated them with the utmost respect and are always willing to do whatever we can to make their jobs easier, all they have to do is ask.

 

 

I’ve since been informed by the Archdiocese finance office that they definitely do not frown upon second collections being taken up for non- Catholic organizations or any worthy cause our church family sees fit to request.

The Catholic Church has gotten out of the business of educating children. It’s time for those who have been ‘in power’ the longest to recognize that fact and to start speaking to and treating their Parishioners’ like the adults they are. It is not their job to ‘teach us’ or ‘scold’ us.

 

We are well aware of the fact that our religion is in danger of complete collapse, the dominoes are picking up speed. We are working with full, honest hearts to shore up our foundation and to move forward into the future with the best of intentions. We are working to communicate with Catholics that have been hurt, have fallen away and to other denominations as well as our communities that we are a warm, welcoming Christian religion with clergy and members that are Christ like.

 

“I’m sorry if that sounds mean,” is unacceptable. It is never okay to sound intentionally mean.

 

 

What is the difference between the Catholicism and Dominoes? The answer is the volunteers.

 

If we want to prevent the total collapse of our church it’s time for a drastic change of attitude and for all Catholic volunteers to be treated like the adults they are and most importantly with the utmost respect and Christ like kindness.

It is up to us volunteers to ask for, to expect and to even demand the changes if necessary.

Have a Blessed Day,

Doreen

 

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Because music is so important to me, such a part of my life I’ve wanted to join in on #Music Monday.

My #Music Monday posts will include interviews and music from new and veteran artists from all genres of music as well as the music that has meant the most to me throughout my life.

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Because music is so important to me, such a part of my life I’ve wanted to join in on Music Monday posts for the longest time.

My Music Monday posts will include interviews and music from new and veteran artists from all genres of music as well as the music that has meant the most to me throughout my life.

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