TUESDAY MORNING RANTS….
Please welcome guest ranter, Mrs. 4444. Mrs. 4444 is the host of the oh so popular Friday Fragments. She is a teacher, a mother and is writing her first book.
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Many school districts across the country are moving to merit pay systems in which teachers are held accountable for poorly-performing students. I understand that (and support it, to some degree), but my question is, “When is someone going to spearhead an effort to hold parents accountable for how their kids do in school?” Let’s leave parents of teens out of this–If they don’t have control of their kids by then, it’s probably hopeless, but how about grade school and middle school kids? How can I (a special education teacher) be held accountable for a student not making “adequate yearly progress” if his parent(s) don’t make school a priority? I’ve had students whose parents expect them to get out of homework because they have “a lot of after-school activities,” because they only have them on the weekends (and think the weekend should be “fun”), or because they had to go to their sibings’ [insert dance class/doctor appointment/football game here]. I regularly have students whose parents take them out of school for an entire day for a 9am dentist appointment in a town that’s 15 minutes away. I once had a parent come and sit with his child in my room during the after-school detention she’d earned, because he “didn’t want her to be bored.” No; I’m not kidding. How about if a student is failing, the teacher gets evaluated for effective teaching practices, and the parent has to produce some type of self-reflection form that asks questions like, “Describe your child’s homework routine.” I guarantee, half of them would write “I ask him if he has any homework, and he says no or he left it at school. What am I supposed to do?” I’m all for doing something about teachers who can’t teach, but when are we going to do something about parents who can’t parent?
Why can’t people receiving Welfare benefits be expected to contribute to their communities in some way? Why isn’t anyone doing anything about the fact that generations have now been raised in families that expect to just sit around all day and collect a check? My family was on Welfare when I was a kid, so I know it’s important and necessary, but it’s supposed to be temporary. Requiring recipients to get involved in their communities (if they’re not already working) would raise self-esteem and possibly put a dent in the number of families dependent on the government. Look in the Yellow Pages; you will see a huge number of Hand-out programs and very few Hand-Up programs; I hate that.
According to ChildMolestationPrevention.org, well over three million children are being sexually molested today. “Three million children is a staggering number of children. That’s 46 National Football League stadiums packed with children who are, today, being sexually abused, and who believe they have no adult to go to for help.” When I was being molested, as an eight-year-old little girl, it never occurred to me that I was a victim; I thought it was my fault. I felt guilty and ashamed. We see posters for a number of social issues on the walls of schools: anti-bullying, grief support, LGBT issues, etc. Why don’t we ever see posters encouraging kids to report people who are molesting them? I’m not saying it would have to be anything over-the-top…just something like, “If someone who’s supposed to care for you is touching you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable or ashamed, that’s abuse, and it’s not your fault; tell someone.” The signs could be posted on the school counselors’ desks or something. It seems like we are invested in protecting child molesters; I hope this changes some day.
How do you feel about these topics?