Please welcome psychotherapist, parenting coach and the brand new author of Go Take a Bath, Robin Kevles-Necowitz
Did you grow up in a writing or a reading household?
Not at all. I grew up with my dad who was a washer repairman. Reading and writing were not encouraged. Scholastic achievement was not modeled or encouraged.
Where did you grow up?
Tell us about your book (2 paragraphs)
In my 25 years in private practice, I see parents who are confused and bewildered as to why, despite their best intentions and efforts, their kids are suffering. The children’s issues may differ (anxiety, depression, acting out, drug abuse, bullying, etc.) but the struggle is the same. As I get to know these families, I see that many are caught in a very similar dysfunctional pattern. Many families are raising their children in a child-focused household. These parents are turning their own worlds upside down to meet the perceived needs of the child. Examples include: preparing the family menu around a child’s preferences, not tending to their own social needs to attend every soccer game their child plays in, spending their evenings helping kids with homework or problem solving their child’s concerns that came up throughout the day. They believe with their full heart and soul that this is a loving, selfless act and their “job” as a good parent. It’s not.
Our job is to prepare our children to launch from our home into the world at large. And that starts early! It starts when we walk away from a baby in a crib for a few hours teaching that baby that they are safe without us for a few hours. It continues in toddlerhood, when we step away from a toddler who is petting a friendly dog teaching that child that the world is safe and we trust them. “They got this!” And it continues on throughout the years from school issues, to driving, to college to marriage. We want to teach our children the skills necessary to manage in the world. When we take on too much for them, we send them an unintended message of inadequacy, “I will do this for you because I don’t think you’re capable.” Parents don’t realize they do this, so they don’t understand when a child starts to shut down, act out or display symptoms of depression or anxiety. My book addresses how to undo all of that so children can thrive! And it’s never too early or late to start.
Share your publishing story (2 paragraphs)
OY! My publishing story. ROUGH! I have had this book in my head for many years. But I always knew that navigating through the process would be difficult and expensive. But in January of 2013, I had finished the book (HA!) and decided to make it my 2013 goal to publish it. I knew I wanted to self-publish but I wanted to hire a professional editor. I honestly thought an editor checks for typos! I had NO IDEA what I signed up for when I hired her. My editor (Paula Berinstein) was TOUGH! But she was excellent and my book is more polished and professional than I ever dreamed it could be. But I will say the whole process was costly–financially and emotionally! Funny story: After months and months of edits, Paula finally said it was ready to be given to the test readers! Yippee. After receiving and integrating the test reader’s feedback, I was SURE we were done. I sent it to Paula for final approval and I got an email back with the subject line: Don’t Freak Out. Too late! She had sent me another 3 weeks worth of edits. I walked over to my refrigerator, opened it, and didn’t stop eating until the book was published. And that’s just one of thousands of stories. I am thrilled it’s done, but it was MUCH harder than I ever imagined.
Do you have a day job?
I work as a Licensed Psychotherapist and Parenting Coach in Fairless Hills, PA. I have a full, balanced practice. I work with couples, individuals and parenting issues.
What was the last book you read?
MINE! Before that? The gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown.
Will you write another book?
What is your guilty TV pleasure?
The Big Bang Theory. I absolutely love that show. I could watch reruns all day long.
Where can we find your book, website, twitter, facebook etc…;
My book is called: Go Take a Bath! A Powerful Self-Care Approach to Extraordinary Parenting. It can be found on Amazon.com. Link is below. Also, please friend me on Parent Assist for free daily parenting tips and follow me on Twitter @RobinNecowitz
I am very proud of the book and feel so touched that I have already received twelve 5 star reviews on Amazon in the 3 weeks it has been available. Check out the reviews below. Book is available in print, kindle or audio spoken by yours truly.
Like most writers I can feel stressed out, from time to time, luckily for me, I have my friends at the Insecure Writers Support Group. #IWSG
The group meets on the first Wednesday of every month. Whether you need a shoulder to cry on or you have some great advice you would like to share, no matter where you are in your writing journey, you are welcome to join us.
December is one of my favorite and one of my least favorite months. I just got back into the swing of writing each day after my summer laze fest and here come the holidays threatening to slow me down again. I cannot let it happen not this year.
Aside from all of the, holiday goings on this is the time of year that writers need to choose what conferences, workshops, retreats, expo’s etc. that we might like to attend, next year. I think I will keep it simple this year and stick with the three that are closest to my home. The Philadelphia Writers Conference is one of the oldest and I think one of the best. This year it is June 7-9. The other two I have never attended but always wanted to are the Philadelphia Christian Writer’s Conference and the other is in Wildwood, N.J. I am going to make an effort to get to those this year too.
I found this great site with a pretty good listing of 2013-2014 events. It is her post from October 5. If you have not been to a conference I highly recommend you make an effort to get to one. It can do wonders for your writing and your spirit.
Have you attended a conference? Do you have a favorite? Is anyone planning on going to the Philadelphia Conference this year?
Happy Holidays to You, See you next year!
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The last pots washed and put away the extra chairs, and buffet table put back into hibernation, goodnights said and hugs given, and just like that, Thanksgiving for eighteen at our house was done. I hope your day was as blessed as it was for our family.
While having desert we played a game called pass around. The person at one end of the table thought of a sentence whispered it to the person next to her and so on around the other seventeen at the table. The last person to hear the sentence stands up and says it out- loud. It was so interesting to witness one sentence change so much. A bucket of gumballs somehow became a bushel of clams.
Friday Fragments is a recap of what I have been up to all week, the edited short version…
If you have a need for sharing your own short versions please feel free to join us. You will find more info here:
I was given the number 11, which happens to be my lucky number by a lovely friend…
So here it goes, 11 things you may not know about me:
1) I spend as much time as I can on a Harley Davidson. I prefer riding with my husband but can ride on my own too. We go to bikeweek (March) and biketoberfest (October) in Daytona Beach every year.
Goldie Hawn/ the Hawn Foundation/ Mind UP
Academy Award winning actress, producer, author, child advocate and philanthropist, Goldie Hawn started Mind UP. Mind UP equips children, educators and parents with vital skills that will help them increase focus, improve academic performance, reduce stress and gain emotional resilience and optimism. It is the signature initiative of the Hawn Foundation and currently serves children on five continents with positive reviews.
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Last weekend I went to North Carolina to bring my friend Tina home. Tina has been down there for four months taking care of our friend Joelle who is battling cancer. On Saturday night, Joelle’s church, New Horizons in Durham was hosting a concert/fundraiser for her. Actually five churches from the Durham area came together as one, in support of Joelle. It was beautiful.
So many of you have been praying, sending healing thoughts for and asking me what you can possibly do to help my friend Joelle and her family.
I often wondered why our God gives some of us heavier crosses to bare than he gives others’. Joelle is one such person. She has lost loved ones to violence and illnesses. Refusing to allow herself to be stuck in sorrow, she continued to be supportive and to stand by her friends, family, church, community and even complete strangers.
Welcome to Novembers Group Session of the Insecure Writers Support Group. If you are feeling the need for a big group hug and a healthy dose of encouragement and inspiration, you have come to the right place. Feel free to jump right in and share your concerns. If you are feeling secure, please feel free to share some inspiration!
Purpose: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It is a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds!
Welcome to November, everyone and how nice it arrived on a Friday! Personally, I still want July back. That does not help with my goal of living in the moment. I need to work on that.
On most Fridays, I am visiting, reading and commenting on the blogs of some of the best virtual friends a blogger could ever have. The little group is called Friday Fragments and it was started by the oh so lovely Mrs. 4444.
You can find out all about it here and you are most welcome to join us. We would love to have you.