My theme this year is KEEP MOVING FORWARD
All of us, no matter who we are or where we come from will experience different levels of disappointment and loss at some point in our lives. Whether it is a rejection letter, we didn’t get chosen for a job we wanted, a relationship ended or a close loved one passed away it is painful. The ways in which we deal with our disappointments and losses can be as different as we all are. Each one of us feels some level of grief every single day of our lives. If we cannot find our car keys we become angry, we deny that the keys are lost or that we had anything to do with them being lost, we panic, we bargain with God or the universe or pray to Saint Anthony and finally we accept that we need to stop, clear our heads and accept that we misplaced our keys and we need to find them. When we lose a love one we have all of those same feelings of grief, greatly compounded. Our lives are turned upside down and the world stops. Some of us find it difficult to move on. We struggle to return to ‘normal’ not realizing that we are forever changed and will never return to what was once ‘normal.’ We must find a way to move forward and adapt to a new ‘normal.’ For many of us that is easier said than done. We find ourselves needing a lot of help.
When we are stuck for whatever reason, depression, grief or just feeling down, one of the quickest, easiest and natural ways to feel better and to get us Moving Forward is to take a walk.
Researchers have discovered that daily walking not only releases dopamine (a natural anti-depressant) it can also trigger an anti-aging process and repair old DNA. This simple movement can actually add three to seven years to your life.
Twenty-minutes of putting one foot in front of the other, is all it takes. Imagine that.
There is more good news. Walking can also lower your risk of diabetes, heart disease, cancer and may retard the onset of dementia!
So many of us sit for hours a day and no amount of walking or other exercise can counteract the effects of so much sitting but if you get up and move for two-minutes an hour, the better off you will be.
No prescription needed, no cost involved, it is low impact. Just get up and Keep Moving Forward!
For the month of April I am participating in the A-Z Blogging Challenge. You can learn more about the challenge here:
My theme for this year’s challenge is Keep Moving Forward.
It’s hard to believe we are already up to the letter U!
Last weekend I attended a conference for midlife bloggers. #BAMC16. Imagine that, there are so many midlife women blogging that they have their own conference!
The conference was held in Nashville last year and this year in Las Vegas. This was my first visit to the city so I had no idea what to think.
As my travel and roommate, Barbara Hammond explains here, our travel got off to an unexpected stop: http://www.zeroto60andbeyond.com/what-happens-in-vegas-bam16/
Once we safely landed in the Vegas airport, like good writers we stopped in the first library we saw.
We met up with the beautiful Beth Ann Chiles and shared our first Uber ride together. The hotel texted to welcome us before we even arrived. Our driver Aron delivered us to the gorgeous J.W. Marriott in style.
We checked in, made sure my books had been delivered, found our fabulous room, changed and headed down to the Irish Pub for a meeting with the 3 women I was scheduled to be on a panel with. Candace Karu http://candacekaru.com/ Valerie Albarda http://www.midlifeagogo.com/ Pam Luttrell http://www.over50feeling40.com/
Our panel discussion was on blogging and business. We discussed how we started blogging at midlife and were able to turn our blogging into successful businesses.
As shown by the caliber of sponsors, midlife women have a lot of buying power and a ton of influence! We have stood up to live, are writing about it and most importantly we are unselfishly uplifting one another. If only we could have learned to do that in middle school…
The swag from these sponsors was fantastic and I will be writing more about them real soon!
#Nissan; #Zappos; #Chico’s; #Boiron; #Osteo #Bi-Flex; #MotherHen; #domain.me; #Vibrant Nation; #MadisonReed; #Feedblitz; #Galderma; #Prudential; #John Hancock; #Lincoln Financial Group and #CabotCheese
A huge congratulations and thank you to the founders of #MidlifeBoulevard , the #WomenofMidlifeFacebookGroup and their #BAMC16 staff! I am already looking forward to #BAMC17
For the month of April I am participating in the A-to-Z Blogging Challenge. To learn more about the challenge:
My theme for this year is Keep Moving Forward.
Last year at this time it seemed SO far away but I kept writing and rewriting and editing and then hurrying up and waiting and hurrying up and waiting some more and now here it is:
The Back of The Book:
When Sophie walked through my front door that night, I could not believe my eyes. She was a frail, filthy, and hunched-over eighty-year-old woman.
What possibly could have happened to her?
Sophie’s story is one of jealous, vindictive siblings, an abusive husband, and a sexual assault that resulted in a pregnancy and a kidnapping. Her children were unforgiving.
She was left out in the cold by a deceiving judge and then by a group of lost souls that she had devoted her life to serving.
As much as I felt we were getting to know Sophie, and it was starting to feel like she was just another one of our “crazy” relatives, there was still so much that we didn’t know about her.
After more than two years in our home how was it possible that she was still very
much the stranger in my recliner?
“The Stranger in My Recliner is riveting, a book that captures the reader’s attention not just by
It’s fascinating story, but by the light it shines on society’s ignorance about mental illness.
As I read the book, I kept asking myself, “What would I have done?” and more importantly, “What more can we do for all the other Sophie’s out there?”
The author tells this true, gut-wrenching story directly from her heart, and in doing so brings many issues surrounding mental illness in today’s world out into the open for discussion, examination, and hopefully for some change.”
Senior Editor, Delco News Network
“After a devastating divorce and while in the hospital for two months with congestive heart failure, I became homeless. My life was changed irrevocably—overnight. Upon my release, I was moved into a shelter. The hospital provided me a ‘protective filing’ with the social security administration, so it only took five months for me to be approved for disability.
If anyone reading this thinks, ‘Gee that will never happen to me, I’ll never become homeless’ they need to think again. Doreen is right. Homelessness can happen to anybody. This book is timely and important.”
Violist, Tampa Bay Symphony; Author of the Homeless Chronicles
Doreen McGettigan started her writing career as a features writer for several Philadelphia area newspapers.
Her first book, Bristol boyz Stomp [Tate 2012] is the true story of the random
road rage attack and murder of her younger brother, musician David Albert.
She is an outspoken advocate for all crime victims, the elderly, the mentally ill and the homeless.
The author lives in Delaware County, Pa. with her husband.
Hopefully I can Keep Moving Forward and this time next year, The Fathers Pain will be on this page…
If you are in the Philadelphia area I am at the Neshaminy Mall Barnes & Noble today from 3-5!
Keep Moving Forward!
During the month of April I am participating in the A-Z Blogging Challenge. You can learn more about the challenge here:
I think I am finally caught up with writing my posts now I can move on to my favorite part of the challenge, visiting reading and commenting on the other participant’s posts!
My theme this year is Keep Moving Forward and that is something I have had to remind myself to do all week. It’s been one of those weeks where nothing seems to be going right.
One of my goals this year was to start a schedule and to use it. So far I am doing well with adding events to that schedule and adding as many details about the event as I can. I’ve created a habit of checking my schedule several times a day and writing short to do lists a few hours before bed each night.
My life has been so much less stressful and I am becoming more successful because I am prepared and on time.
Sometimes however the best laid plans can be tossed out the window when things happen you have no control over.
We planned a workshop for tomorrow six-months ago. Two of our panelist had to cancel, one is extremely ill and the other had a family emergency.
I wanted to get upset, even angry but that would only cause me to get stuck in fear and frustration and I would not be able to solve the problem, effectively.
The two panelists we have will be fabulous and our workshop will be a success. There will be donuts and donuts make everyone happy!
How do you manage to keep mindful and keep moving forward when things seem to spiral out of your control?
For the month of April I am participating in the A-Z Blogging Challenge. You can learn more about the challenge here:
My theme this year is Keep Moving Forward!
To React or To Respond
‘Do you have the patience to wait till your mud settles and the water is clear? ~Lao Tzu
They say that most of what happens to us in our lives is a direct response to how we have reacted to the stuff that happens to us and those around us.
None of us wants to react badly or wants bad things to happen, I hope.
The secret is to learn not to react. When we pause, breathe, think about the situation and then respond rationally the outcome has a better chance of being positive.
This time of year I can’t help thinking of another ‘R’ word, road rage. Our gut wants us to react by slowing down when someone tailgates us. A safer choice would be to respond by moving over and letting that car pass us by. That choice will ensure you live another day because statistics prove inciting someone who is raging will end with you being injured or killed. I know this for a fact because on April 26, 1999 my brother was beaten to death in a random road rage attack.
The secret to a more mindful life is in training ourselves to stop, breathe and think before reacting poorly. When we learn to pause we almost always respond in a more positive manner.
It isn’t an easy skill to learn, it takes the choice to be mindful and practice.
- Relax when someone is speaking to you. Listen to the entirety of what they are saying before pausing, breathing, thinking and responding.
- Remove yourself from any situation that has a chance to become toxic. Go for a walk or a run. Exercise releases dopamine (a natural feel good chemical) so you will not be able to stop yourself from feeling better.
- Realize that everyone is different and entitled to their own opinion. It is not your job to change the mind of someone you don’t agree with. You are not the idiot whisperer. Take a deep breath and move on.
- Relearn patience by breathing in through your nose to the count of six. Count to six while letting the breath out through your mouth. Practice this throughout your day, before getting a drink, answering the phone, going into a stressful meeting etc…
How do you stop yourself from reacting angrily?
Keep Moving Forward
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During the month of April I am participating in the A-Z blogging Challenge. You can find out more about the challenge here:
Every year I struggle with the Q word but wow I’m so proud of myself this year!
Isn’t that an awesome word? Now what the heck does it mean?
Definition: not sensible about practical matters; idealistic and unrealistic
“As quixotic as a restoration of medieval knighthood”
That could be a word that describes someone (that we think) is in love with the wrong person, voting for the wrong candidate or involved with the wrong group, company, religion or so on and so on.
I cannot wait to use this word in my manuscript!
How would you use quixotic in a sentence?
Keep Moving Forward!
This month I am participating in the annual A-Z Challenge. You can find out more about the challenge here:
This month has been an above and beyond busy month for me and I am not complaining because the busy has been all positive! For the first time in my five-years of A-Z Challenges, I have fallen behind. I have plenty of excuses, I traveled to Las Vegas to speak at the most amazing conference, #BAMC16, traveled home on a redeye (what the hell was I thinking?) and have been promoting my new book, The Stranger In My Recliner. All of that +my beloved coaching clients and ghostwriting clients may be keeping me so busy I have fallen behind but all of them also give me the energy to Keep Moving Forward and to always think positive. It would be so easy to give up and take a nap but staying positive is an amazing superpower!
During the month of April I am participating with nearly 2000 other bloggers in the annual A-Z Blogging Challenge. You can find out more about the challenge here:
Today’s letter is the letter O
OCD is a series of irrational thoughts or fears that cause you to repeat behaviors that you believe will cause the irrational thoughts and fears to stop.
This or one of the many other mental health conditions can make it very difficult to move forward without support from friends and family and/or treatment. With support and treatment though, moving forward is possible!
Today’s post is part of the annual A-to-Z Blogging Challenge. Each day of April (except Sunday,) we write a post corresponding with that day’s letter of the alphabet. For more information on the challenge and its creator visit:
My theme for this years’ A-Z Challenge is Keep Moving Forward ! Todays letter is N and is based on my newly released book, The Stranger in My Recliner. The book is the true story of Sophie. She was the eighty-year-old homeless woman that my husband brought home one night. She lived with us for nearly three –years. The book is out now!
It was cold. The sharp pains in her back and hand reminded her. Trying not to move anything but her eyes she scanned. She saw him and felt relief and fear. Getting up was painful but she had to make sure he was breathing. They both had to get out of there before the school kids walked by, saw them and got scared. The mothers would call the police. She did not want to scare the kids and she definitely did not want to go to the hospital or even worse, jail.